Friday, September 22, 2023

Natural instinct

In 1987 the world was introduced to the term millennial, named for the high school class that would graduate in 2000. Commonly portrayed as idealistic and overzealous, a class that talks more about their passion than jobs, the folk for whom what matters was happiness and fulfillment. This overzealous lot had passions which they had set once they were in the dream world designed by their parents. A kid who had a car to ride once s/he stepped into a degree college, had pocket money which is more than the average take home for an entry level graduate, had an iPhone and many more fringe benefits. But once s/he had to face the general realities of the work place – one in which no one is special and you have to put in time to advance and prove your mettle, one in which starting take home is lesser than the monthly pocket money s/he used to take in his/her degree college days and won’t suffice even three luxury dinners, the millennial kid begins to feel unhappy at work and slowly started to confront. The world the millennials are now introduced to is far from what s/he had dreamt while in the castles made by their parents, a job world which is crude and hostile, where one needs presence of wits, skills and patience every time to over-wit a competitor and secure a place where you become indispensible and benefits start pouring. All of a sudden the world starts being alien and hostile and the millennial starts showing signs of intolerance, unhappiness and dissatisfaction and either quits the race to turn to ground zero or is laid off to be sent to ground zero. After all it is the world where grounded people, who show more maturity and realistic approach in their work, survive and reap benefits. Now the parents of the millennial kids start to worry, they see themselves ageing and no more being a support to their kids in the very near future. They want their kids to settle down and start their career trajectory. They are in confusion what went wrong where; after all they had kept all the facilities and all the resources at their kid’s disposal. So where was the mismatch, was it in the aspirations of the millennial, was it the approach the parents had used to bring the millennial kid up or was it the mix of two or was it something else? Our generation, as parents, has some unique set of traits. We want to give our children all the facilities, available nowadays, at their disposal, which we haven’t had when we were of their age. In the process we often tend to forget that we are depriving them of the natural instinct. We forget nature has made them the warriors and hunters to hunt and eat. Our support and helping hand at every step denies them an opportunity to polish their natural instincts. A sight of a father helping a toddler to get up and quarantine him/her from other toddlers, once s/he falls, is just the beginning of this vicious phase. This phase spares none. On the contrary we have seen toddlers who get up on their own leading the toddler group the very next day. We often wonder why our baby doesn’t show these traits, but miss the real culprits who has denied our baby this opportunity. All through his/her schooling, to their college and graduation we are there to offer them more than a helping hand at even the slightest of hiccups they face and once s/he is out in a job, after graduation, we expect them to sail on their own in the highly hostile job/ career environment. How fair is it? Only if it was possible to go with them to their job/ career desk every day could we have helped them here even. So in our own quarantined environment, in our own limited ways, slowly, one part at a time, let’s not deny our kids the opportunity nature have to offer them to polish themselves to sail through the journey of life, which nature has brought us to sail through.