Child’s upbringing depends on goodness of parents


Dear Madam,
Martin Luther King Junior had once said, “There is within human nature an amazing potential for goodness.” If we are in any doubt as to whether all of us have natural fountain of goodness within ourselves then we must see the smile of an infant. Indeed, each and every baby’s face bears testimony to it. This naturally comes to a baby without obstruction as it does not calculate the balance sheet of being good which most of us do.
The Mother (spiritual collaborator of Sri Aurobindo) made an interesting observation. She said, “I have very often heard people saying, ‘Oh! now that I am trying to be good, everybody seems to be bad to me!’ But this is precisely to teach you that one should not be good with an interested motive, one should not be good so that others will be good to you – one must be good for the sake of being good.”
Indeed, if our goodness is laced with an interested motive then it will certainly block the natural flow of our amazing potential for goodness. We must be good for the love of goodness and not for the love of recognition. Yet goodness always gives two instant returns. First, it gives immense satisfaction to a person who allows herself or himself to be good to others. It helps induce positive energy and harmony in hormone secretion in our body. Second, it gives a person an opportunity to see a radiant face of whom she or he is showing goodness to.
If we start treating both our seniors and juniors, white-collar and blue-collar workers, rich and poor persons with equal respect then we can feel that happiness is emerging from within us and also from the person who happens to be in front of us. More often than not, it can create a wonderful atmosphere. A love for goodness makes many people toil hard so that their children and other people can rejoice. As a matter of fact, goodness is the key to evolution. A child’s upbringing very much depends on the goodness of its parents.
Sujit De, Kolkata